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Carrie Kong May Yee, my dearest lovely best friend passed away in the morning on 16th July 2007.
She was 8 months old pregnant, her first child.
Is a baby boy.
Everything happens in splits seconds.

Sitting at her house sofa awaiting for her husband to go to work.
Little does she know what was actually awaiting for her...
Her husband called her name..no reply..
He called again...no reply..he rushed to her...and thought that she has fallen asleep.
but panic arising..
again and again..he repeated her names...he tried to wake up her up from her slumber.
to no avail..
she had stop breathing
no signs of hearbeat.
her husband was so miserably shaken and he rushed out to neighbour to call for ambulance
while he conduct CPR on Carrie.
The CPR fails to revive her.
The St Johns came..
She was pronounced death on the same spot.
She was rushed to HUKM A&E and husband was asked whether he wants to rescue the child first
but the child might have high possibility of brain damage..due to lack of oxygen
husband chose to rescue Carrie first
all sort of equipments and ways...to revive her.
but to no avail..
she has passed away...
and the baby has passed away too...

Suspected pregnancy induced stroke.
that sofa she was sitting while waiting to go to work.
the sofa she has seated to watch all her movies with her husband
the sofa i have seated to watch your lovely wedding movies and pictures

Her O&G(Obstetrician Gynaecologist) follow up dr was taken aback when we told him too.
We ask for a report from him. Her blood pressure record was normal, cholesterol, baby weights and her weights are all normal. He couldnt tell the definite cause.. it is really rare.
He suspected either it is arrhythmia (irregular hearbeat) or deep vein thrombosis (flow of blood is clogged up in vein)...both can happen in sudden with no symptoms usually.
I asked what is the possibility of a person getting this......
1 in 10,000
why must in 10, 000 , that 1 person is her.....she is so young..too young..
too damn young...she is pregnant...how could the selection be such way...
i know most of you wanted to know the reasons...
i hope this brief illustration, maybe not be very exact..could helps in answering your curiousity.
however, in 2 to 3 weeks time only the post-mortem reports may (or may not) tell the actual cause of death...
watever the report might be, i m not concern...coz watever the report is...it wont revive the Carrie Kong i know..
For, I know now, i have lost my best friend in my life..she is like my sister for 20+ years...
Carrie, until my last breath in this world, i will remember you forever. Eternity, as you said

"Sweet memories are to be shared and remembered, as it will lasts for eternity!"
-Carrie Kong May Yee

21 comments:

kon said...

first, she was my client,
we met at 2003, slowly
we become best friend while working together till now.

appreciate that you guy putting so many effort to create this blog.
to let us know more... although after read it still sad...

once again, let's pray that she & her baby will be resting in peace.

*sigh*

Money=Me said...

I was a college mate but never get to know Carrie, but bum into her last few years, my ex- colleague (Kon & John Ng)introduce us. I'm pretty saddened by what had happened as i have just recently became a mother and I know very well how a women risk their life in order to bring another one to the world.
I had whispers words of prayer for her & her beloved child the moment i got the news. Though we might come from different believes, but i;m sure God will provide her & her precious a better place now.
Continue the prayer for the husband & the family to be strong.

CH Voon said...

I am Ck's friend. I don't know her.

But, i feel sorry and sad to hear this news.

Let's we pray for her & her baby and her family.

Woman is very great people... Pegnant is not an easy things...

As a man/Husband, we need to take care our wife....

Let us pray for her again...

CarolynKong said...

thanks Kon, Chloe and Titan for your comments.
Chloe are u from UOL too?I m carolyn KPY...Carrie's so call "twins" in class?

Anonymous said...

sad to hear, i'll pray for her and her baby too. they're in a better place now.

Anonymous said...

Hi I'm Lai Chan one of Carrie schoolmates. I feel so shocked when I heard about her news through one of my schoolmates.

Eventhough, I'm not so close with Carrie but I still remember her very well especially during our schooling times.

Carrie I will pray for u! Miss u!

Unknown said...

I don't know Carrie. Get to know this shocking news through forum. I am deeply saddened by her demise. May her soul rest in peace with her son by God's side.

Anonymous said...

My deepest condolences, although I do not know Carrie, but I am so sorry to get this news from a forum. I feel the pain for her husband and family.

May she rest in peace.

Money=Me said...

yes, I was from UOL and only manage to complete my Diploma. Then started to work.

Still got pretty shock with the news.. my condolences also goes to u as her 'twin' sister. I'm sure u had pretty hard time as well. Take care.

Princess D said...

Pooi Yuh I was in Bangkok for one week and just got back yesterday and came to know this shocking news! I feel so shocked when I saw this and I still remember the last time I saw you and your "twin sister" was in One U and we have yet to arrange for one day to meet up and here she's gone!

May Yee, may you rest in peace!

And to Chloe, I remember you. We met in Diethelm last time and you told me you were working with Adsv.

YP said...

Hope it's not too late to post a message here.

May Yee (Carrie) & I were coursemate back in college. I lost touch with her since we graduated.

I was shocked to know about what happened to her and her baby. May she & her baby rest in peace.


Pooi Yuh,
Take care ya. Be strong. Let me know if you need someone to talk to.

Anonymous said...

i know May Yee since primary school..n move up to secondary together..although not the same class...

to me, she is a very humble, caring n nice gal..n knew that she had been friend with pooi yuh since they knows each other in primary.

it is really a shocking to hear such a tragic news n a great loss to whoever had known May Yee.

But as people always said, GOD only take away the one we love because GOD care of them...now we know that May Yee and her baby will always safe at his side.

Pooi Yuh, be strong as I know it is a great loss to you to lost such a great friend...but life goes on n I believe May Yee will not wants you to grief for her forever. memories of her will always live in some part of our heart for those who know her.

let's pray for her and her son in every prayer that you take.

Anonymous said...

Hi Carolyn,

After I read the news bout May Yee from your friendster, I googled for her name and found your blog. Thanks for putting this post. Now I knew what happen...

We've lost contact after SPM but to read about her lost is too deep for me...she was that sweet girl who sat next to me in class when I was in form4. The same girl who helped me in math homework and the same one who spoke malay better than some malays (you too CKPY!!)...

When I looked at her photo...can't believe its been more than 10 years since I last met her. She was still young and bless her she will always be. But to my regret I will never be able to meet her..to hear her...to see her smile ever again.

May her soul, and the soul of her unborn child rest in peace through the mercy of God.

and to CKPY :

“True friends are the ones who never leave your heart, even if they leave your life for awhile. Even after years apart, you pick up with them right where you left off, and even if they die they're never dead in your heart.”

--- Hanida ---

Anonymous said...

Its me again.

Just now I realised that this blog was created not only by Carolyn but also by Mei Han and YinPing. I remember those names :)

You guys showed a wonderful friendship and caring thoughts by putting this blog in memory of our dearly departed Carrie Kong May Yee.

Thank you!



I thank you all.

Unknown said...

i learned about this sad news from one of carrie's schoolmate, meisen. i'm a classmate for a year, in form3. i remember carrie and pooiyuh sitting i front of me and peifeng that year, the 4 of us used to chit chat in classes all the time. and we did a couple of school projects together.

1 in 10000, i'm sure it's really hard for families and close friends to accept this. may you all be strong enough to go thru this sad moment.

Pooiyuh, i'm so touched for your effort in blogging this for carrie. be strong. i'm sure carrie and her baby will be resting in peace.

seokwai

CarolynKong said...

thanks all for the wishes and prayers..especially to the SMPB and Stamford beloved friends...

Do keep in touch with me..so sad to get friends re-united at such way..

my email is carolynkong [@] gmail.com
my msn contact at nylorac [@] phreaker.net

take care gals and guys.. me, Mei Han and Yin Ping will be strong..thanks!!!

Anonymous said...

The world could be small. Carrie Kong is my neighbour and I came to know this blog through my colleague.

Getting the news from my husband on Monday morning is no easy to swallow. Though we have not spoken much, but the depress set in easily....

I lost my best friend too in a sudden. I knew how it hurts.

My prayer to her & her baby, may them rest in peace. To husband, be strong. I knew he will. GOD bless.

Anonymous said...

Hi Carolyn,

my deepest condolence and im so sorry to hear this news.
Pls allow me to share my experience that ive encounter more or less the same like Carrie.

Her named, "R"(ex-coll),she is on d way to airport for biz trip and according to my frenz who sent her to airport claims that she got a major headache and collapse immediately.Postmortem report shows that she got a vein ruptured in the brain(hypertension).This consider a "SILENT KILLER".Both my frenz and i rush to KLIA to give a hand and we regretted that we are too late to be there for her.Yet we still cant accept her departure.

Till then , may god bless her and the baby.May she rest in peace.

mich

Anonymous said...

Hi all,

thanks for the sharing.
Take care.

Dandelion said...

i was carrie's secondary schoolmate... i was so so shocked opening the blog link forwarded by meisen and only knowing this sad news today.... We lost contact after SPM and i'm working in shanghai since couples of years ago. I still remember the sunny similing faces of both of u, carolyn and carrie during my shool time, humble, smart and cheerful always. I fully understand the feeling of losing someone in sudden in our life, be strong and tough.....i'll pray for her and her baby too.....


yokefah

CarolynKong said...

Hi yoke fah,

sorry to get back to you late...
thanks alot for your prayers...
hope you are doing fine...
my email is carolynkong [@] gmail.com
keep in touch ya..